The Home Team: family and friends

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A huge part of your team are your family, friends, co-workers, neighbors - whoever you connect with.   You will find strength in the little things that you never realized were important.

We all react differently to the diagnosis

At first, a cancer diagnosis may come as a shock.  Our reactions can range from distress, to anger - why is this happening to me?  Some people just take a breath and go through the motions until they get through.  Sometimes you have deep sadness, or concern for your children and how they will experience your cancer diagnosis.  There is no wrong way to react, just let the emotions work their way through.

But as you are processing, remember you are not alone.  Your team is with you. 

If you have a friend that you are comfortable talking to, talk about your feelings and fears or your new perspective on life now that it's in sharp focus.

Sometimes just a smile will carry you through a really rough day.

If you are a more private person, and prefer to work through your emotions internally, keep breathing - know that everyone around you cares and wants to support you in a way that works for you.  Sometimes just a smile will carry you through a really rough day.  There are angels all around us looking out for us.

Cancer changes you, but not how you might expect

Your life has changed.  You will see a shift.  Honestly, sometimes it seems like a cancer diagnosis can break everything apart.  Sometimes your marriage breaks down - you don't always get support where you expect it.  But you will know your team.  There will be people in your life who are there, and you may find the support you need in unexpected places.  

Keep your eyes open, find your support.  At the end of each day, reflect on how grateful you are for the little things that got you through.  Those little things become the big things, and help you to shape your vision of the future.